There comes a time to most of us, at forty five? Fifty? We seem bewildered in our own lifes, and do not seem to recognize the landscape we are in as the one we set out to find.
Which could be good, life is full of surprises. Even immovable and unsurpassable mountains turn out to have secret doors.
If you find yourself hammering at this mountain trying all the sesam-sesams you are able to imagine while no one works, you might see a coach or read a “Your dream will become true” book.
They will both ask you to remember: “what did you love to do as a kid, what do this love tell you about who you are?”
Most of us are not able to pinpoint the passion of our youth though, we loved a lot of things. I, for instance, loved to sit in the windowsill of my room, watch the roaming fields and read, as well as building playhouses in the woods and running tracks. I would not want to make either into a living.
Perhaps we are blind to the truth all around us? I need to turn this question upside down. Instead of starting the hunt for loves and likes and happiness, I stop now and then and see what I have been doing, even if I had no time for it. What my soul is drawn to and need to do, then I make room for that
Then I take a step back now and then and consider the output of what I have done and what I haven’t done, what did I learn to do it better next time? I have found that the answer to middle age confusion is not necessarily to do something else, but to know the essence of what you do and why.
I think the road to middle age wisdom is to learn the lessons from the road we have travelled, and know how to apply our understanding and wisdom to every task, every challenge, every opportunity life gives us. Mostly. If we are on the wrong road, no amount of putting mind and soul to the task will set us right. It would be bad though if we actually are on track, but so busy comparing gear and GPS readings that we never get around to enjoy it.
I tried this exercise in my garden today. I already know I need to be there, though I was not really aware of what I have been doing all these years.
Now I know. I have been planting white plants. I have taken care that the sunlight gets to play through the petals
I have given every flower room to grow and thrive. I have been steadily and unvaryingly watering, tending and working to create place for joy a
nd peace. Hopefully that is what I do wherever else I am too.
And yes I love it, still.
